Another Sad Day

Our close friend, Carol's husband died over the weekend in a motorcycle accident. We don't know much. We don't need to. Carol and Justin had their problems, she was even filing for divorce. She loved him still... but he had run across things that changed him, changed his priorities, and he had a hard time deciding what was more important-his family, or living the after-high-school party years dream.

What do you say to a friend in a situation like this? What do we say to ourselves and each other? Justin had once been our friend, too. Josh never lost hope that Justin would turn his life around some day... I wish I could say the same. Justin put a show on for people he didn't know well, I can honestly say I didn't know Justin well. But I know Carol. I know she's hurting. I feel awful because I didn't try to know Justin better, but if I had, he had changed into someone I know I wouldn't have gotten along with. And there's still Carol. Carol with the children she and Justin had. Ryenne, who will be 2 in August. Evan who just turned 6 months old today. Children who will never remember their father as the person their mother feel in love with.

And still, Carol. What can we say or do to help her? She has such strong family support, close friends. But there will be such pain. She never really stopped loving Justin. Everyone knows that.

Such pain. I can never imagine this kind of pain. I have no way of knowing how to help her.