Our close friend, Carol's husband died over the weekend in a motorcycle accident. We don't know much. We don't need to. Carol and Justin had their problems, she was even filing for divorce. She loved him still... but he had run across things that changed him, changed his priorities, and he had a hard time deciding what was more important-his family, or living the after-high-school party years dream.
What do you say to a friend in a situation like this? What do we say to ourselves and each other? Justin had once been our friend, too. Josh never lost hope that Justin would turn his life around some day... I wish I could say the same. Justin put a show on for people he didn't know well, I can honestly say I didn't know Justin well. But I know Carol. I know she's hurting. I feel awful because I didn't try to know Justin better, but if I had, he had changed into someone I know I wouldn't have gotten along with. And there's still Carol. Carol with the children she and Justin had. Ryenne, who will be 2 in August. Evan who just turned 6 months old today. Children who will never remember their father as the person their mother feel in love with.
And still, Carol. What can we say or do to help her? She has such strong family support, close friends. But there will be such pain. She never really stopped loving Justin. Everyone knows that.
Such pain. I can never imagine this kind of pain. I have no way of knowing how to help her.
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
Thursday, June 7, 2007
Okay the past weeks
SO, in the past few weeks, we've found out the trany's bad on the car (only to find out it may not be the trany exactly, but probably is several other things that will ultimately cost just as much and that Mazda tranies are usually not very reliable anyway)...
Tried to sell the truck-still trying. Anyone want to buy a truck?
Got a second job-sort of. Contract work as a sub-contractor transcribing... do I know what I'm doing? Really?
Um... At least the house hasn't broken. This week.
Next week the nephews are coming. AWESOME! We want them to come every year, but last year we had the newborn and just couldn't handle it mentally. This year they're coming for the full week next week. We're hyped. Don't really know how we'll pay for them to be around-they eat a lot and will probably want to do things. But it'll still be fun. Downside (and maybe upside after it's done) is that we have a lot of cleaning to do and they'll be here in two days.
In two weeks and two days we'll have Connor's first birthday party... so we have to clean for that, too.
I never liked cleaning much.
Tried to sell the truck-still trying. Anyone want to buy a truck?
Got a second job-sort of. Contract work as a sub-contractor transcribing... do I know what I'm doing? Really?
Um... At least the house hasn't broken. This week.
Next week the nephews are coming. AWESOME! We want them to come every year, but last year we had the newborn and just couldn't handle it mentally. This year they're coming for the full week next week. We're hyped. Don't really know how we'll pay for them to be around-they eat a lot and will probably want to do things. But it'll still be fun. Downside (and maybe upside after it's done) is that we have a lot of cleaning to do and they'll be here in two days.
In two weeks and two days we'll have Connor's first birthday party... so we have to clean for that, too.
I never liked cleaning much.
Happy or Sad?
Benefits to baby turning 1:
No more carrying around annoying (and heavy) rear-facing car seat
Get to take baby outside in his shoes now he's sort-of-walking
Won't have to buy formula for daycare or home
Won't have to puree all of his food
Not-so-much benefits to baby turning 1:
Baby will insist on walking everywhere... and ignore the hand held down for him to hold (especially in the street)
Have to actually buy shoes for baby to walk around in
Have to buy special milk - sort of
Have to sit and chop food up into not-too-small pieces, but not too large, either
Have to tolerate temper tantrums when we dont' have 20 minutes to walk with baby around in circles.
More temper tantrums in general
Future year out-look:
The day baby climbs over/out of crib and baby gate
Day baby learns to say "no"
Day baby learns to get around his clothes and to his diaper-thus taking the diaper off
Day neighbors see us chasing naked baby around trying to get baby back in diaper and clothes
Day baby discovers how to open doors
Day baby defeats baby-safety catches on cubbards and drawers
Conclusion: WHAT WERE WE THINKING?! (Okay, so yeah, we love him... but really, they need to invent that time machine-so we can pause baby's growing up.)
No more carrying around annoying (and heavy) rear-facing car seat
Get to take baby outside in his shoes now he's sort-of-walking
Won't have to buy formula for daycare or home
Won't have to puree all of his food
Not-so-much benefits to baby turning 1:
Baby will insist on walking everywhere... and ignore the hand held down for him to hold (especially in the street)
Have to actually buy shoes for baby to walk around in
Have to buy special milk - sort of
Have to sit and chop food up into not-too-small pieces, but not too large, either
Have to tolerate temper tantrums when we dont' have 20 minutes to walk with baby around in circles.
More temper tantrums in general
Future year out-look:
The day baby climbs over/out of crib and baby gate
Day baby learns to say "no"
Day baby learns to get around his clothes and to his diaper-thus taking the diaper off
Day neighbors see us chasing naked baby around trying to get baby back in diaper and clothes
Day baby discovers how to open doors
Day baby defeats baby-safety catches on cubbards and drawers
Conclusion: WHAT WERE WE THINKING?! (Okay, so yeah, we love him... but really, they need to invent that time machine-so we can pause baby's growing up.)
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